How sincere is the stranger who says, "Wow, its so good to see you are happily married,"? I've heard this many times in the past 24 years and from people both men and women who have just found out that I was married. I no sooner get it off my lips and they make the claim that me being married makes them happy and they claim that therefore I must be happy.
They don't understand marriage or happiness and this is a fact. One never was intended to create the other. Better to say, happy is the man who is happily wed or happy is the married woman whose husband knows when to take his fishing trips. Happiness isn't something that requires a contract. It comes and goes just as the sun rises and sets. Marriage is a death do you part kind of deal and when you think about it, its comical in nature. The only real escape clause both entering the union agree upon is Death.
What right do we have to ask that others be responsible for our happiness? None. Why don't we all take a moment to reckon with our spirit and admit, that it is okay to not be happy all the time and it is also okay to be happy when others are not. Admit it: "You are not responsible for my happiness!" Know that I'm not responsible for yours. We can however, rejoice for each other when we know such glee and we can mourn for each other during times of suffering. Let us all, no matter what, just be real.
One more thing. Do not tell married people how wonderful it is that they are married. They live. That is wonderful. Okay? Thank you.
2 comments:
right on, thank you Lana*
right on, thank you Lana*
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